Wednesday, December 2, 2009

my mom

My sisters, Kassie, Kelsey, Kinsey, and brother, Rick wrote this tonight because my mom loved her lists.

25 Things We Love About Mom


1. She wrote each of us diaries about our lives
2. She was always willing to talk on the phone and hear the pointless details of my life. She knew when I pulled into my garage that we would talk tomorrow.
3. She taught me to believe in God.
4. She would send you a handwritten letter that would only say “I love you,” “You are my favorite, but don’t tell your sisters,” or “I love you…the most.”
5. She encouraged me to do whatever I wanted to do with my life.

6. She would be passionate about things because she knew it would make me happy.
7. Her stories…she would tell us to just listen and pretend to enjoy it unless we had already heard it five times.
8. She was obsessed with Graham looking like me. She only liked pictures of him that showed the resemblance.
9. She always told us “we were beautiful.”
10. She taught me how to be blunt. She always told it like it was.

11. She was a fighter. She was not willing to give up on living.
12. She was a hopeless romantic, and always told me how much I can be loved and never to put up with less.
13. Her stories were mostly random and disconnected…but always in an interesting way.
14. She loved our dad.
15. She never complained about driving hundreds of miles every week just so I could wrestle with the best.

16. She taught us and truly believed that the bond of sisters is bigger than any joys you encounter, bigger than any lies that are told, and bigger than any hardship.
17. She was crazy. Called her blog a blob, had to have a certain kind of ice, loved Clay Aiken, and always used different colored fonts in her emails.
18. She loved BINGO.
19. She has always allowed us to make our own decisions.
20. Her “love language” was gift giving. She showered us with love through gifts. Random packages from random catalogs, packages of candy for us and our roommates, and a five dollar bill in a letter. She was incredibly generous, with her children and those in need.

21. She would always go to our extracurricular activities, record them on the radio and write down the scores, so we could always remember them.
22. She taught us how to love our family by example; she visited her parents several times a week.
23. She was okay with us sleeping in when we were in high school just as long as we woke up before our dad got off of work.
24. She put a lot of thought into her letters, emails and blogs.
25. There is so much of her in me.

3 comments:

Jeff D. said...

Deb Sloss of Perry, mother of five children, is ready to marry off her 20-year-old daughter to Aiken. Watching him perform throughout the second season of "American Idol," Sloss said, was "like watching your own child grow up."

Touching post. Keeping all of you, and your mother in my thoughts.

kaci said...

Yes my mom was a bit crazy :)

http://aiken4u.com/news/2004/cultofclay.shtml

that is where that beautiful post was found (go to the middle of the page) and yes it was printed in the Des Moines register and yes I was the 20 year old at the time.

Elizabeth Seaman said...

That was a very wonderful and passionate post. I think if I new your mom, I would have gotten a long with her really well. I kind of wish I would have met her. It is hard loosing a parent. Knowing from experience. I can tell you this. It doesn't get any easier no matter what people tell you. The years may pass, but you will remember those wonderful memories, hear a song on the radio, or see something at the store that you new they would like, but you can't give it to them anymore. Then you break down in a puddle of tears. Trying to grasp whatever once of self control you have left, and you realize that it is good to cry. Good to let all the hurt and frustration out. For you know no other way. You feel like you are going through so much heart ache that you can't even discribe it, and you wish you knew all the answers to why? But what I have learned out of my experience, is we become stronger. We go day by day and live for what is happening on now. For even through you want to, you can't change it. But I believe that God, friends, and family will help you through this time. I hope that if you ever have to talk or need to talk to someone, I just want to let you know that I am here.

~Your Friend Elizabeth (Liz)