Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Comforting without Talking...

A thought for you from Relevant...

"Where does this leave us, then, who will all undoubtedly one day be in a position where someone we know is suffering? Words are not universally unwarranted, but they should be used with the utmost care. If you have an encouraging story of survival, share it with someone while being careful not to belittle a friend’s situation. Be genuine. Be sensitive. Pray with someone instead of saying you’ll pray for him or her later. Ask what you canspecifically do to help with practical needs, rather than telling someone you’re available if they ask. Listen. Don’t ask how someone feels unless you’re prepared to hear the answer in a loving way. Don’t feel the need to immediately offer advice or instruction. Don’t make promises you have no way of fulfilling for us. If you feel uncomfortable or don’t know what to say, try to say nothing. Often, the best thing to do is be quietly present."

You can read the whole article here