Sunday, June 27, 2010

27 days...

Yes I have a countdown.  That is really only because of two reasons though.  One, my friend, Crystal, made me a sex it up calendar which is a countdown till the days I get married.  Two, our wedding website has a countdown on the bottom.  And just so you all know I had to just look at the website to see how many days were left to title this blog post.

On Wed. I'll be officially moved out of Sarah's place.  I will be homeless for 24 days.  Well, not really homeless, just a bum who is couch jumping from friends' places and my dad's place.  I will be living out of two clothes baskets while all of my other stuff is sitting at Ryan's waiting for me to move in.

This is becoming oh so real.  And I think I like it.

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

The Happiness Project

Happiness is...

When I feel gross and feel like I have had to gain weight, then I step no the scale and realize I'm five pounds lighter than last month.  And that means I'm 25 pounds lighter than a year and a half ago!!!  And that means my BMI is finally 24.6 which means I'm no longer overweight!!!


Sunday, June 20, 2010

Happy Father's Day.

My dad is an amazing man.  I respect and love him deeply.  I could go on and on with many cheesy things, but you should go check out this post.  I wrote it a year ago.  (It brings by far the most amount of traffic to my blog, not much, but the most.  If you google "Why I love my dad," it is the fourth thing to show up (you would be surprised how many people actually google that.))

Go check it out.  

I feel like I could make a whole new list from the things I have seen him do these past six months since my mom has passed away.

Here's some more to add to the previous list of 30.

31. He's not afraid to cry.
32. He recently learned how to text message, and with that he'll send me good morning texts.
33. He tells me how much he misses my mom.
34. After my mom passed away, he was determined to finish house projects cause he never had before.  Since then he has finished redoing two complete rooms.
35. He always asks me how my van is running.

36. He's going to walk me down the aisle.
37. He recently bought a Harley and gives me rides on it.
38. He calls me on the phone just to see how my day was.
39. Never once have I visited home without him stuffing me full of food.  I definitely will not go hungry if he is around.
40. He taught me how to always find a great deal and never settle for less.

Friday, June 18, 2010

More of My Smiles

This beautiful woman is getting married one week before me and it is official we are real life neighbors come July 24th!

I love my dad.  I'm blessed by him in so many ways. 

Dad and Mallari

Menace Game!!!  My two soon to be neighbors.  One of the many reasons I love them is they always pose in pictures too!

Notice the Menace shirt Ryan is wearing.  Yes I caught that with my amazing tshirt catching ability.  (I once caught five tshirts in a single parade.)

More beautiful women on the field after the game.

Ahhh, Sarah and Travis.  

Thursday, June 17, 2010

My Life in Smiles

We're getting married.  Only 37 more days!

Ryan holding Mallari.  He's ready to be a dad.

I like this sister.  She made my beautiful invites!

Memorial day picnic and soccer game.  My team loved each other.

Incredible Pizza....Need I say more, it was incredible.  I won the shooting game!

We won the basketball game!

They lost the basketball game and possible every other game we competed against them in.

Miniature Golf, look at those studs.

"No I don't ever pose for pictures.

We're cute

We spent 30+ minutes at this game trying to get the bonus.  We never hit it.  Yes we are lame adults.

And all of our cool prizes, very jealous, I know.

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

I'm Not So Good at This Game.

Today I walked into my kind of boss' office to ask her a question.  And guess who's blog she was stalking?  yep, mine (but I've told her a million times, she needs to use google reader, much more efficient.)  At that moment I felt like a bit of a failure because it has been so long since I have posted.

So here is a pointless blog for all of my stalkers to read.

Tonight adventure...Ryan and I went to go get his wedding band at Valley West mall.  We went to Joseph's first because we love them (random fact from a previous employee:  they are the only jewelry store in dsm that doesn't run on commission.)  The lady helping us was super nice, and not overbearing at all.  We would have got it there but Ryan didn't like any of their rings.

We then went next door to the overbearing saleswoman who was definitely not satisfied with Ryan's 'he didn't like anything' response and that we were going to look elsewhere.  She was ready to have us look at a magazine and order one.  So annoying.

Then we went to the next place (think: Every kiss begins with....) the sales guy looked exhausted.  He hunched over in his chair while Ryan was looking at the rings.  Not at all trying to sell them to us, or did he really listen to anything we had to say (If I wasn't in an over enthusiastic mood, I would have been annoyed, instead I was determined to make his day.)  So me being who I am (very blunt, just in case you didn't know) told the salesman that he is been by far the least enthusiastic salesperson all day and he looks exhausted.  And how that was kind of ironic because Ryan actually liked one of the rings and bought his there.  I think he enjoyed me telling him that he was the worst, cause he gave us a discount.

Yes a pointless story, but I forewarned you all ahead of time.

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Ryan's Version

Here's Ryan's version of the engagement story. Mine is here.

Thursday night (on April 1st that is) Kaci and I went to Saylorville lake for a picnic, we ate Jimmy johns at a picnic table near a boat ramp. Kaci and I had our second date there and it is just a good location for a date. We had a good conversation during dinner and decided to swing (well I swang she sat on the ground) I remember looking down at her and how incredibly beautiful she looked. We hugged and kissed a bit, and decided to walk down to the water/boat ramp.

While we were at the ramp I decided to pray for us, and our relationship. After we prayed a gust of wind and a breeze came up out of the north. I felt like it was God saying “it is time”. I know that may sound weird, but I just knew, and when you know you know. We started walking back up, I got extreeemly nervous, “this is it! THIS IS IT!” kept going through my mind, I was trying to put the words together as to what I was going to say on the spot. (I have to work to be romantic, and it doesn’t come easy). Even now I can’t remember the exact words, but it went something like “Kaci, I love you, and I have loved you since before I even knew it was love,” then I got down on one knee and asked her to marry me. She said yes!

Then she asked when I asked her dad. “oh, crap” my hands grabbed my hair, I had totally forgotten. Since I had my phone with me I called her Dad, and asked. After he was satisfied with giving me a hard time (in typical Paul fashion) He eventually gave his permission.

Due to the massive amounts of people that needed to be notified, it only made sense to me to use the mass messaging tool known as twitter, I knew that it would be the best way to get the word out so I tweeted “she said yes”. In my (a guys) mind this was the most efficient way of doing things. However, Kaci, thought it would be best to tell people in person/over the phone. She had no idea that I had already tweeted. (oops) I eventually told her, and in hind sight her way was probably best.

We are both looking forward to July 24th, and the many many years together after that.

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Happiness Project

My wedding invites are in the mail!


Vote For Graham

You should go vote for my nephew Graham.  It is super easy.

Now go vote!  And you can do it everyday!

Saturday, June 5, 2010

The Saturday Evening Blog Post

Elizabeth Esther on her blog host the Saturday Evening Blog Post.  It is where people gather the first Saturday of the month to share their favorite blog post from the previous month.  You should go check it out.  It is a sweet place to discover new blogs and a great way to bring people to your blog.

This month for my favorite post I choose We're Writers.  I see more and more how God is allowing me to use this blog to mourn.  This was one of those thoughts that was stirring in my head that just wanted to be shared.  I feel like there was a lot of those this month,  so thanks for reading and listening to my heart and most of all thanks for entering into my pain alongside me.  

Friday, June 4, 2010

Letter to My Mom (part 7)

Hey mom,

Another week has past and that makes it 6 months.

Your birthday is next Wednesday.  I remember for your 54th birthday we had a surprise party.  Kassie flew up from Florida to surprise you too.  Kassie, Kelsey, Kinsey and I got all of the food ready, made a video for you and sent out invites to your family and friends.

One of my jobs that night was to get you to the party at your parents.  We had planned to go out to eat together as we often did. (Thanks for always making those bi-weekly lunch/dinner dates a priority.  I cherish them now.)  I had talked you into going to eat in Des Moines, but at the last minute you wanted to stay in Perry.

Now I'm thinking if we stay in Perry (our hometown), how am I going to get you to Woodward (that is half way between Perry and Des Moines.  Me being the quick thinker I am, said Melinda (your sister) had very important news she needed to share with us.  And you knew that meant we needed to go to Ankeny.  You were so annoyed at me.

So I get you into the car.  We're driving to 'Ankeny.'  Right at the curve to your parents I say "I need to pick up some pants at grandma's."  Again you were so annoyed, but I slowed down quickly and turned off the highway.

I get to grandma's and grandpa's and everyone's car is hidden in the back.  (score! Still so unsuspecting.)  I pull up super close to their door and ask you to go in with me.  You say no.  Absolutely no.  Grrrrr....I was so frustrated, you had a surprise party waiting for you.  I said I was scared to talk to grandma alone.  You still didn't care.  It was hot and you were tired and you didn't want to get out of the car.

I was moments away of telling you about the surprise but instead I yelled at you.  'Mom you have to go inside with me."  You get mad and you start following me in.  (I know I was a horrible daughter but believe me it shock me up a lot to yell at my stubborn mom and I knew the yelling was for a good cause.  I knew you would love it once you got inside.)

You immediately saw all the people inside and walked straight into the bathroom.  I could tell you were crying.  Such shock of emotions.  Extreme anger at me and then surprise and then joy and excitement.  Then we put Kassie in front of the bathroom door.  You opened the door, saw Kassie and went right back into the bathroom to cry some more.  When you came out, you had the most beautiful smile on your face.  That whole night you were glowing.  So much joy.

You loved that night.  Absolutely loved that night.  You watched the video we made for you twenty times that night and twenty more times that week.

I remember you telling me while you were in the hospital that that party is your favorite memory of your life.  Thanks mom for sharing that.  Thanks for giving us the gift of being able to give you a memory that you cherished to the last of your days.

I love you and miss you,
kaci jo  

At the party!

One of my favorite pictures of my mom and dad taken that night.


Check out the letter to mom series here.

Here's the thank you email my mom sent us after the party.  (I love her color choice and over use of smiley faces...she loved them both dearly.)

thank you, thank you. i have the greatest kids around...i was very proud of all of you, i think it is about as proud as a mother can get. as i said Sunday i will write you thank you notes in your diaries.  grandma and grandpa were all full of praise for you girls and rick when i stop over yesterday to visit them.. They thought you kids had it all together. grandpa couldn't believe how you all got it laid out as fast as you did, it was very organized. your dad stop and seen Aunt janiece on Sunday, she said she never seen a group of people work together so well...of course i am loving Bridget party they talked about how well you kids put together everything,also. I think you pretty well impressed everybody..the video was the cherry on top the cakei have always told you to put things in writing, but to combine writing and video in one, i was and will be continually move every time i watch that video.. I will cry each time i watch it..thank you thank youyou all just confirm that i have the best kids in the you all mom

Thursday, June 3, 2010


Imagine being paralyzed lying barely out of reach of a pool that you believed would heal you for 38 years.

38 years you stare at your destiny.

38 years you see man after man go into this pool and be healed.

38 years you lay there as your body is wasting away.

38 years you hope.

Then one day a man comes up to you and ask you if you want to be healed.

What kind of question is that.  Of course you want to be healed.  Of course you want to experience what it would be like to walk again.  Of course you want to experience life.

All you need is someone to put you into the pool.  All you need is someone to come along and grant you your hope.

And then the man says "Get up, take your bed, and walk."


Get up now?!?!

Walk now?!?!

Be healed?!?!

And at once you were healed, at once you took your bed, at once you walked.

That's Beauty.

Wednesday, June 2, 2010

A day late...Happiness Project

Triple dates where the men bring flowers and plan a picnic in the park with disc golf.  Then ice cream at Dairy Queen to follow with transportation in the ultimate triple date vehicle (the minivan.)  Oh how I love being in my mid twenties.